Being a Wife

by Caitlin Reinsmith

I am currently not a police officer but I am working on getting into a Peace Officer Academy.

I have the drive to serve and protect. I believe in holding the integrity that people are lacking in our world. I am willing to lay down my life for a random stranger knowing that I was doing it for a reason.

There is one problem that has risen and that is that my husband really doesn't support me becoming a Peace Officer. It is breaking my heart in two ways. It is my passion but can the life of a Police Officer be full filling if your husband does not support you?

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May 02, 2013
It's tough...
by: police-officer-pages

I am sorry to hear that you are in the tough spot that you're in. Regardless of whether you want to become a peace officer or not, it's always tough when your spouse doesn't support you in something that is important to you, no matter what it is.

Why is it that he doesn't support you? Is he worried for your safety? If that's the case, then it's not difficult to understand how he feels. Many male officers have girlfriends/ wives who worry about them when they are at work. Male or female, when you have someone you care about, being concerned for their safety is as universal as it gets.

I'm not going to lie to you; if he is dead set against you becoming a police officer because he's worried about you then it will be tough. If you go ahead and do it without his support, it could create problems between the two of you- but that's something that the two of you will have to work out.

I'm not a counsellor and I won't pretend to have the answer here. Giving advice in a situation like this would be a little inappropriate of me to do. All I can say is that you guys have to talk things through and make the decision together.

If you go ahead and do it, you will need his support at home at times. Someone to talk to is important, and I would think that person should be your husband. Other people don't talk to their spouses enough and it can create a wall. It's important to have a healthy life outside of the job, and if things aren't good between you and your husband, then it will be a problem.

I'm not saying that you guys are anywhere near this, but check out the page "police divorce rate". It's in the section titled "Being a Cop". It's got some info and issues are discussed there and it might be worth reading.

Good luck to you. I hope you guys are able to work this out.

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